Shifting your Focus!
The sun came up over my mountains this morning as usual and I watched the clouds and fog dissipate and clear blue sky touched with lavender appear. All is well in Gods Kingdom and moving along just as it should be. That is a fact that we must remember "everything under the sun is as it should be".
We tend to get involved in our little corner of the world and do not cast our eyes out to see the big picture and that is normal but at times it is important to do so.
This morning I would like you to partake in an exercise that I do when intense feelings and emotions cloud my otherwise objective mind. When I am harboring intense feelings of anger and disgust with an individual I do this exercise to clear my aura of negativity.
For the first step, on computer, paper, or at least in your mind, make a list of the people you correspond with, or who impact your life, that you don’t like, who irritate you or in some instances you absolutely cannot stand to be around.
This can include those in your professional and personal world, and those in the public eye, who rub you the wrong way, who make your skin crawl, or who -- if you didn’t believe in kindness and compassion or at least in avoiding jail -- you’d flat out enjoy punching in the nose.
After you have composed your list then you are going to do some analysis about each person on your list.
What is it about this person that may be worth emulating?
Instead of focusing on their disagreeable qualities and actions, that is, for each person on your list shift your perspective to what their best qualities are … more particularly, to the one, two or more aspects of their character that YOU could learn from and perhaps use more of.
Perseverance? Discipline? A happy-go-lucky attitude?
Everyone has something worth emulating. Everyone. Though certain people may deserve to be fired, jailed, or impeached, even they have qualities that are worth appreciating and emulating.
It is our ego's that urge us to completely trash anyone who seems to have a negative influence in some way on us. Our subconscious brain tries to protect us from pain and if somebody strokes our ego, then that somebody is good, and if somebody kicks our ego to the curb then they are considered not so good or bad. Honing in on what we don’t like in people (or in situations for that matter) won’t change them, but it does make our lives considerably less peaceful and sucks away from our productivity and happiness. It becomes a habit that perpetuates the self-damage. Plus it makes us considerably less attractive to others.
This lingering reaction creates the notion of “dislike,” or hate, which blocks our eyes, mind and heart from focusing on anything but the negative. But by focusing on the negative in anyone – “I really don’t like that person” -- we are doing by far the most damage to ourselves.
I don't want you to think that you have to tolerate being abused or taken advantage of by those people "we just cannot stand". You need to avoid some people no matter how much you would like to create a different attitude in regards to them. You can avoid them however but change your feelings towards to be more benevolent.
This exercise will help you (your ego) to avoid letting those people pull you down into discord and disharmony in your life where you don't deserve to be.
The key in this exercise is to try and focus on what may be worth appreciating about the person in question. Don't hone in on the negative but only list the positive even if these people are your opponents for example such as in court or your worst enemy at work. You need to strive to keep your emotional responses in check in regards to the person in question.
So to continue the first step is to make the list and consider each person from an appreciating angle. What is it that you can find about them that you can appreciate? For example: Are they good parents, do they take care of their business, do they care for their personal appearance etc.
The second step is to extend this practice into your daily life.
When you encounter someone who seems to be doing the opposite of their part to make your life worthwhile and wonderful instead of focusing on what makes them such a lousy human being, focus on what it is about this person that is worth emulating. Keep striving to do this until you feel the shift within you. As you continue to do this it becomes a habit and you automatically begin to see the good in everyone.
You will be amazed at how this shift reduces your overall anxiety and enables you to move ahead in a much happier frame of mind.
You cannot change anyone ...that is absolutely the truth if ever a truth was said. It has to be their own choice to change. You can alter how you perceive them however and I do this exercise regularly to keep my mind from dwelling on things that create negativity in my life.
Sometimes we need to step back from the trauma or discord we have witnessed and just assess the impact that it has on us. You can use this exercise for situations in the workplace also. Analyze each situation like you analyze the people you do not like. Try to pick out the areas that you can live with and can accept. Expound on those and do not dwell on the things that make you miserable like having to do other peoples work or having to stay late on a Friday night etc.
This process of shifting your focus works! Just try it and you will see. Make your list of those that are getting on your one last nerve and just see if you can find something that makes the person acceptable and unique to you. Look for some quality that the light shines through.
Wishing you joy in this day!
Rosie
Tags: Manifesting Metaphysical Psychic
