Everything that we create in our life begins with a decision.
If you’ve ever made definite decisions in your life, perhaps you will understand what I mean when I try to describe it. How a decision feels for me is like a “click” inside. It feels like a key has been turned and a lock has been either opened or closed, depending on whether I am moving towards something, or away from something.
A definite decision is a point in time when I have decided “This is it“. There is no other possible outcome other than this decision that I have made. Regardless of how long, or how fast I make my decided outcome to manifest into reality, there is no other alternative.
Only my decision exists. The outcome has been decided. There is no other result possible. Many will describe this point in time when they come to a decision differently but there is a resolve that sets in for everyone when they "finally" decide what they are going to do.
When you have made a definite decision about something major in your life, you know in your heart that there is only one thing to do and that is move forward with the idea. You may not know exactly how you will get there or when or what will happen along the way but you know you are going with this decision and moving forward with it.
The "lightbulb" has gone on and it is like a relief or an endorphin rush when you finally make your intention known and you are moving on that intention. You have burned all the bridges behind you and you have decided to move forward.
We make decisions all the time but when it comes to major decisions in our life we tend to waffle and waver. We get caught between letting go or moving out of our comfort zone and taking a chance on the unknown. It is sometimes a scary transition to transition into a better place in our life.
We tend to rationalize to ourselves that it’s OK, we can take changes slowly and hopefully, some time in the distant future, we will get what we want. It’s like making a decision to be healthy, but let’s enjoy our junk food now, or let’s just be a couch potato for one more day.
That in itself is a decision, but it’s not making THE definite decision about getting what you really want.
How Does Decision-Making Really Work?
When you don’t understand what making a decision really is, you may be deceived that you have either made a decision, or that you’re incapable of making decisions.
When you realize that you’re deciding all the time, because every thought, word and action that you have is a result of a decision that you have made, you realize that you are a natural decision-maker.
We ALL are.
But if you continue to repeat the same decision, you’ll continue to think, communicate and behave as you always have. Which in turn, continues to create what you’ve always experienced in your life.
Actions Follows Decisions
Actions always follow your decisions. Without the congruent actions to accompany your decision, you have to evaluate if you really made a decision that you “thought” you made, or if you were just attempting to deceive yourself.
We all fear changes that come with making a decision. We’re afraid to be “called out” on our decision that we make, and we fear that we will fail ourselves if we don’t succeed in following through on our decision.
We make excuses to pretend we already decided. Excuses like:
“I’ll change slowly, and take my time.”
“I’m weaning myself off this bad habit.” “There’s always tomorrow, let me enjoy this a little longer.”
There are all sorts of other excuses to procrastinate on following through with what we know is good for us.
If your actions show you that you are still doing things that aren’t related to what you thought you decided on, then did you really make the decision you thought you made?
If your actions of continuing to eat junk food, postponing exercise and doing unhealthy things still exist, with no evidence of new behavior/actions that bring you closer to what you want, then the decision that you made isn’t getting you closer to what you want.
When you have made a decision to change for the better, it doesn’t mean that everything about you and your life will change overnight. But there must be some evidence to follow your decision.
Decisions And Procrastination
When you realize that you’re procrastinating from making a definite decision to have what you really want, you can do either two things.
Continue to deceive yourself that you’re doing something.
Take a long, hard look at yourself in the mirror, ask yourself if that’s what you really want. And if it is, make a final, concrete decision to have it.
When you finally reach your decision to be, do or have what you want, you may be plagued by fear and doubt about your success. That’s what all of us experience initially, so realize that you’re “normal”. You’re not being a coward or that you have “no courage”, but realize that experiencing fear and doubt about changes in your life is what makes you human.
However, allowing your fear and doubt to stop you from moving decisively towards what you want won’t help you.
When you have decided, things will happen at the right pace for you. It will neither be too fast, or too slow. Whatever comes your way, it will always be something you are capable of handling. It will never be more than what you can take emotionally, physically or mentally, because every experience is designed to help you learn something about yourself and the environment you are in.
If your thinking isn’t getting you the result that you want, then check what you are thinking to see if it’s aligned with getting what you want.
If your communication is getting you the result you want, then check what you are saying to see if it’s aligned with getting what you want.
If your actions are not getting the result that you want, then check what you are doing to see if it’s aligned with getting what you want.
What To Expect When You Have Made A Definite Decision
When you have made a definite decision, your situation, thoughts and habits don’t change and disappear overnight. As much as we’d all like it to be, they aren’t changed in a "twinkling of an eye", especially for deeply ingrained patterns.
You’ll still be fighting against thoughts ingrained in your subconscious, you’ll still be fighting against behaviors ingrained over the years, and you’ll still be fighting your “addictions” to whatever it is that you already decided you don’t want.
Always keep your eye on your decision, and always keep your focus on your desired end result. Know that just as it takes time to turn a huge luxury cruise ship around, it takes time to turn your thoughts, actions, habits and addiction to sensations around. When you have decided, realize that what you’re experiencing is only temporary as you change your life.
You are shedding old skin, you are re-creating yourself anew. You are slowly, but surely, taking back control of your mind, yourself, and ultimately your life.
So whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has Genius, Power and Magic in it!
Blessings of joy and laughter to everyone this day!
Rosie
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