Transforming the Anger Habit!

The concept behind these books are amazingly simple but are being viewed as positively the most successful techniques in therapy today.

The concept is getting your heart involved in your daily thoughts and decisions. These books show in depth, how the heart is at the core of our body with an intelligence all its own, and it is at the core of how we think and feel.  The "solution" is derived from realizing that the heart is both a physical object, a rhythmic organ, and total love itself.  I have been accused in the past of being "all heart" but "no brains" on many occasions and I laugh about that now for I think perhaps they failed to observe that the heart has a brain all its own and now scientists are proving that!   I have some vindication at last!

After I read the first book I was amazed at how scientific and emotional wisdom was combined.  This is a must read for all of us who are enduring the changes and demands upon our emotions during the current "shift" in our vibrations.  I highly recommend you get the books right away for they may teach you how to deal with the endless stress in a much more heart driven, peaceful manner.

The book that I feel we should discuss first is the "Transforming Anger" volume.  It is a treasure of little book and it gives practical solutions to identifying and stopping emotional triggers, Identifying and controlling anger projections, neutralizing those projections and getting connected with your intelligent heart.

One of the techniques I want to address that really works for me is the "Go to a Nuetral tool".  This is a tool that will nuetralize the "anger cascade" that we all feel.

How often have you let your emotions take over during a tense situation with a loved one where you start bringing up all your old complaints and throwing them at your partner like bullets!  For example in a fight we all use past situations like arrows to the heart.

My husband used to remind me that I was like the proverbial elephant and never forgot one single thing that had happened from the moment we met each other!  Well he exaggerates I am sure but what he accuses me of sure has a lot of validity.   I used to remind him constantly every year of how he really hurt me when he forgot my birthday, how he missed our anniversary and forgot Valentines was a day to bring me flowers etc. etc.   We all are like elephants I believe and never forget the slights that we perceive are against us.

The energy that was wasted stewing over past events and the emotional upheaval they cause when we do recall them is an immense waste of time and usually have nothing to do with the matter at hand that you are trying to resolve.

These assumptions are kept alive by negative judgments and keep our stress hormones flowing.  We need to have a way to nuetralize those projections.  This is where the "Go to Nuetral Tool" comes into play and works so very well.

The Tool will help you from jumping headlong into memories, judgments, projections and assumptions that cascade into anger.

Here is how you can go to nuetral fast and effectively by engaging the power of the heart:

1.  Take a time out so that you can temporarily disengage from your thoughts and feelings, especially the stressful ones.  When emotional triggers come up, recognize that you are triggering.  As soon as you feel the trigger, tell yourself "time out" and step back so you can disassociate from the reaction the triggers sets in motion.

2.  Shift your focus to area around your heart.  Now feel your breath coming in and out and through your heart and going out through your solar plexus.  Practice breathing this way and envision your breath coming in and flowing through your heart and out into your solar plexus.  Do this a few time to ease into a time-out in the heart and more relaxed breathing.

3.  Tell yourself "GO TO Nuetral" then don't go one way or the other with your thoughts or feelings about the issue.  Hold on to the peace of being nuetral until your emotions ease and your perceptions return to normal.

Try this exercise with some emotionally charged events that have happened in the past.  By recalling the situation you will bring up some of the emotions that were surrounding it and practice usine the Tool to diffuse your reactions.

At first you may have to practice this technique over and over but soon it will become easier and you will have enough heart power to hang in nuetral.  Think of an appreciative attitude that will replace all the old resentful emotions and you will find that you can ratchet down the dangerous blood pressure rising stress that we encounter in our daily lives.  After using this technique I have found my husband spending less and less time in the barn escaping me!

This is just an example of the many tools that are offered in this little book and it is well worth reviewing, reading and following its methodology.

You can find these books at Amazon.com and they are very reasonably priced which I really liked!  If you decide to order them please click on our Amazon ad for that will help our community also.

Wishing you a peaceful, heartfelt day that brings you joy and happiness!

Rosie

Sources:  "The Heartmath Solution" by Doc Childre, Howard Martin with Donna Beech.

"Transforming Anger" by Doc Childre, Deborah Rozman,Ph.d and forward by Mathew McKay, Ph.d author of "When Anger Hurts"

This is something that I really think we have to take seriously but not panic about.  I have relied on herbal medicine for years to deter flu and other virus and I wanted to share an article I read this morning about using herbs and vitamin supplements to help with this threat.

This flu is evidently coming to our doors here in the United States and elsewhere in other countries and we should be aware and take precautions.

The most important caution you should be aware of that you must be serious about washing your hands and keeping your hands away from the mucus membranes in the eyes and nose area.

I have been taking my antibacterial wipes and wiping down the bars on the carts when we go grocery shopping and washing my hands with the wipes when we leave the store.  The stores and shopping areas are places that this type of virus can spread easily.

  The following article will give you some interesting facts about vitamin supplements and herbal help for flu virus.
This is an article I read in Associated Content and I found it very interesting.

I have included the description of the Dragonfly totem and what it means if they show up to guide you on your life journey.

I have been musing today about the job market and how so many are suffering during this depression.  The bailouts, preferential treatment for the "big guys" like the banks and insurance companies are truly a sign of the times.  We are all wondering when this chaotic situation will end and we will get back to "normal".

We (the psychic community) have seen this shift coming for a very long time and all we can do is ride the wave of change for now we are in the beginning of the great "shift" and even though it seems chaos is the rule there is light streaming in.  Our consciousness is rising and things that were once tolerated will be forced to change.

I silently cheered when I read JFK Jr. chiding our president about catering to the coal industry this week.  I agree so completely with JFK Jr.  There is no such thing as "clean coal" and in our state of West Virginia the coal lobbyist have kept out other industries because they are so dominant.  They are convincing our President that they can produce a "clean" product and it is all such a blatant lie.

The coal industry has raped our Mother Earth and will continue to do so if they are allowed to make such an enormous profit and are willing to use lobbyist who are wooing our representatives in congress and who have no conscience.  The coal industry has one of the biggest and strongest lobby of all the major corporations and our representatives are under their spell it seems.

The next election I believe whenever I see a congressman or congresswomen who is up for re-election and they are indicated as the "incumbant" I am going to make sure to vote against them.  I think all the old timers in congress are going to have to be removed if we are going to get any change that can be measured.

The news media is all doom and gloom as usual and I think that most of the hype that they peddle will also begin changing for people are sick of the subtle and not so subtle brainwashing we have been receiving during the Bush regime.  I remember how I used to love reading the newspaper especially on Sunday morning and now I just get sick to my stomach when I read the headlines.

We are getting more and more of our information from the internet and the non publicized webnews is getting widely read also.  I used to love the underground newspapers that we all turned to in the 70s but that is what most of us are turning to now on the internet.   The regular news agencies have lost our trust.

I do see change coming although it will be slow.  Even the news from the "other side" is much more optimistic.  There will be change whether we like it or not.  The old way of doing things will disappear or it will be taken from us for it is not good for mankind and will no longer be tolerated.  The gradual rise in consciousness will raise us all and it is here and evident if we just focus on the good things that are happening and not worry to much about the change.

As a Nation we are going to start taking care of our own people.  As jobs disappear more and more Americans will become entreprenuers and create their own jobs and industries.  We are a great country and we are slowly going to take back the power that has been syphoned from us by corrupt politicians.

As the sun slowly comes up over the mountains each day I see God's promise coming with each breeze that caresses my face. We will endure and we will survive it is just a matter of time. I know that there are so many without jobs and many have lost their homes to this situation occuring in our world right now and I am so grieved in my heart for all of those who are suffering.

Take heart however for change is coming and there will be change that we will all benefit from soon.  The big corporations, big pharmacuetical companies, big insurance companies etc. are really being seen in their true colors.  We will no longer be as gullible as we once were and that is a good thing.

Be proactive and take heart lovely friends for we are evolving and this is a slow process.

Blessings to you all and especially for those who are suffering in this economy.

Rosie