The main reason why people aren't capable of staying together for longer than they expect is the fact they hold themselves back from what they feel the most. They fail to be honest with themselves.

Trying to be someone you're not. And when you realize this in the end, the relationship falls apart like a crumbling cookie. You have to love yourself and be comfortable with yourself before you can make someone else happy. Resolving issues and mending your heart to take on another task of love, hoping you won't have to do this once again. Do things that make you feel wonderful inside, bringing up your self esteem so you are able to glow.

Otherwise, you're going to be miserable, and leave your partner in a state of confusion trying to figure out how to make their partner happy.

Eventually they’ll leave when all of their feelings for you have departed. And you’re forced to either remain the same lonely, depressed person inside. Or leave the BS at the door, and rather than being self loathing, you’re going to be radiant showing your partner that you really mean what you feel for them.

The biggest problem people have is comparing their current partner’s actions with actions of previous partners they've endured. Yes you do learn from your mistakes, but keep in mind that everyone makes mistakes, we're only human. Some can be excused, and some need to be addressed in a timely manner. Be comfortable talking to your partner. If you can't talk about it in a civilized manner, there is no reason to be together, cause neither of you could trust one another without questioning the others actions.

Yelling (griping, bickering, complaining) at one another WILL NOT solve anything. Going somewhere else and cooling off before you confront one another is the best alternative. Statistics say an argument is healthy (sometimes), not every time. Remember in an argument, words that are spoken hurt deep down (to either a man or woman). So if you've never meant it, you should have never said it to begin with. Words  can't ever be taken back, only never to be said twice.

In the fit of rage, your conscious is thrown out the window. And what you would rather keep to yourself WILL COME OUT.  Making what seemed to be a simple resolution turn out to be a fully fledged war between the both of you.

Revenge will only escalade the problem, making the situation 10x worse. If it's petty, drop it. If you're wrong admit it and move on (this means both WOMEN and MEN). And, if you know you're right, prove it with facts, rather than repeating what has already been proven. If the subject has been resolved, don't bring it up again later on in another argument. If it bothers you that much, leave. You're only going to hurt yourself and others in the process. Love IS blind, but if you're capable of opening your eyes to it, you'll grow old with the only person you want to be with for the rest of your life. Though, if it's a question they refuse to answer, it's not going to be answered by your friends either. Keep your friends out of your relationship, unless they have insight that will help you and your partner thrive. Otherwise it will only make the situation worse on your behalf.

Friends do see things you’re to blind to see. But sometimes they can make a relationship turn for the wrong because they don't see the big picture like you do. They only see a part of it, and like any human they act upon it. Just like yourself, if you seen something in one of your friends relationships, you are going to confront your friend and address without thinking it out entirely.

If it MUST be addressed, do so. But don't put your partner on the spot unless it's necessary. Otherwise if they are lying, they're going to continue. And you'll be back to square one thinking of another way to catch them in the "act". Your mind WILL fester with anger and resentment towards your partner. And the only option you'll have left is to leave. Or your partner will leave for you in the fit of frustration.

 
SO my advice would be; rather than argue, take a time to chill out (I mean everyone) and come back when you can resolve without anger. If you’re not comfortable with the situation, more than likely it's not going to get any better. Follow your gut instincts. It’s the only truth to your well being.

Make a checklist of what you want, and what you need. Be honest this time; don’t try to lie to yourself. What you want is NOW, and what you need is what you will live with for the rest of your life. You'll find a lot about yourself that you've tucked away for so many years. This won't help you entirely with finding that special someone, but it will give you insight to what you really need or want.

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Remember, the want is A CRAVING, and the Need is what you'll have for your future, provided you're willing to endure the trials and tribulations that come with love. Your (I Need) Person will most likely be the one you grow old with. The wants are those that take the edge off and usually remain short and to the point. Your wants will also prepare you for your needs though. Just think about it...

I found some useful information about HTML and web designing for those not so savy, like myself (oXRavenXo). These tools and descriptions will allow you to better understand what HTML is, how HTML will benefit you, and descriptions of other Acronyms associated with HTML. Enjoy!

What is HTML?

Do you know what it stands for? And Why?

The easy answer is that html is the language of web pages.  The trouble is; that it's incomplete!  Many moons ago, the use of typewriters to lay out text pages meant that changing a line required retyping a page.  Then some clever characters sat down and figured out how to use computers to manipulate the words on a page so that words, lines, blocks of text or entire paragraphs could be moved around at will, and the computer would again lay out the page for you.  They called it "Word Processing" and it was a big new deal!  It also included the ability to mark certain pieces of text to be printed bold or underlined or various other special treatments.  This was accomplished by using special sequences of characters, or codes, to indicate the beginning and ending of the bold (or whatever) text.  These codes were known as "mark-ups", and the collection of them was a Mark-up Language.  Since it was used in Word Processing, it was a Word Processing Markup Language.  With the addition of codes that would link a word or phrase to another document file, providing the ability to jump from one to the other (a system called "Hypertext"), came the creation of HyperText Markup Language or HTML.

The birth of the World Wide Web is related to the release of Marc Andreesen's Mosaic browser.  Note that the term "browser" is closely related to the concept of a "Web" of documents (pages) spread "World Wide" and through which one can "browse" by traversing "HyperText" links. This is a system conceived by Tim Berners-Lee.  Thus, the World Wide Web is a collection of document files ("Web Pages") linked to each other through the transport mechanism of the Internet.

CGI is another term that often brings confusion. CGI is a specification for an interface (say what???)  CGI stands for Common Gateway Interface.  It's actual a means of connecting from a Web Server program to a scripting language that can perform functions outside the Server's own capabilities.  Programs written to be accessed via a CGI interface are frequently referred to as CGI programs or even CGIs.  This leads to the notion that CGI is a language, which it is not.  Programs written for the CGI are often written in Perl, which is a script programming language.  "PERL" originally stood for Practical Extraction and Report Language and was design and written by Larry Wall.

By the way, ASP, which stands for Active Server Pages uses another scripting language.  Based on Visual Basic(VB), VB Script is the language of ASP.  They say that on the Internet things change so quickly that you have to measure time like you do for a dog's age, and count seven years for each calendar year.  No exception here, as ASP is now to be replaced by ASP.Net (Asp dot Net)

"What exactly is Dot Net?" you say. It's easiest to clarify by first saying what it is not. It is not a language. In fact, one of its beauties is that is allows the use of several languages seamlessly in the same application (for example, in a larger project there could be several programmers each using their own favorite language, but each interacting seamlessly with the others - maybe not a good idea to do, but it's great that you could!) The big advantage here is in the ability to reuse code from another application that may not have been written in your language of choice.

The world of computers is rife with acronyms.  There are so many, and they have been used so much, that some have become words in their own right.  Did you know that "Bit" derived from Binary digIT?   How about flops (FLoating point Operations Per Second)? And mime (Multi-purpose Internet Mail Extensions)?

Boot and Reboot , while not acronyms, derive from the expression "to pull up by its bootstraps" and refer to the process of loading an Operating System (OS) by first loading a small loader program from a predetermined place.  If you come across a computer expression you've not heard before, nod knowingly, say "Ahh yes!" then excuse yourself, run to a PC (Personal Computer ) pull up a browser (thanks Marc) and go to webopedia.com  This way you'll avoid the embarrassment of not protecting yourself from a pulsing zombie.  I hate it when that happens!

How can HTML benefit you?

HTML provides the basic structure for your website, so it’s the foundation for your business getting its message to current customers and potential customers.  When you understand the basic principles of HTML, you can begin to format your web pages to have a more unique and in- house appearance.  Brand recognition is important in business, and a little HTML coding can change a template style web page into something that is unique and recognizable.  In addition to displaying advertising copy, pictures, brochures and the like, you can also:

· Provide users with a feedback form to submit basic information to you through the website.
· Generate an email
· Offer a Guestbook

How can you Learn HTML?

As you might suspect, there is a seemingly endless supply of web-based tutorials and instructional materials for learning about HTML.  There are a number of Internet-based tutorials to get you started, and to instruct you on any particular detail or HTML feature that you’re interested in. *Note* I basically learned from reading and making my own pages and programs using the tutorials that I found online, and offline through books and webinars. [oXRavenXo]

Another way to “learn” HTML is simply to create your website using a web-authoring program, and examine the HTML code behind it. It may seem to be a bunch of scrambled text, but reading some of the tutorials will help you understand the layout of the page you created using that program (Web Page Builder of choice) , and possibly help you write your own page out. Or at least help you fully understand HTML, and why it's being used.

Do you Need To Learn It?

Strictly speaking, you don’t need to become an HTML expert to build and administer your personal or business(es) website.  Many of the most popular tools for website construction include powerful capabilities (including many that most websites may never utilize).  As an added benefit, some of these programs are available at no cost. Just being able to understand how the HTML is written by hand will allow you to troubleshoot when something happens. You won't be shelling out large sums of money to have a maybe a simple fix of your HTML page coding or panicing and deleting everything just to redo it. Not only is that time consuming, but costly. Remember; your page will still be viewed by many potential friends and customers. Changing your website or even deleting content may delay their return to you website. Loosing potential customers and possible future moderators. So learning a little about it won't hurt you, and won't kill your budget either.

Since the HTML that serves as the backbone of a website is basically just text, any text editor (including Microsoft’s Notepad) can be used to create a website.  Even though writing HTML code directly in a text editor can eventually help you to better understand what’s going on “under the hood”, spending the time necessary to become a hardcore HTML coder might simply not be an option. Though learning HTML basics wouldn't be a bad idea.

In contrast, there are also popular programs that make it much easier to create your website layout and design through graphical user interface.  These programs do the heavy lifting, and will automatically assemble the HTML code based on the design you make.


Rules-of-thumb for building a web page of your own:

   1. Use text colors that complement your background color or image, yet provide enough contrast to make reading easy on the eyes. Red text on a green background, for example, is a no-no, even if you're dear old Santa Claus.

   2. Avoid loud backgrounds. If you have one you really love and must use, use a table with a complementary table background color for the text area. You'll find table tutorials further along in the Web Design Tutorials section.

   3. Don't make your pages more than 4 screens long. If someone has to click the scroll bar more than 4 times to get to the bottom of your page, it's too long. Too long of a page makes it load slower, it may not be completely indexed by search engines, and will look like too much work to read for many of your visitors to bother with.

   4. Don't use too many graphics or too much animation on any one page. Visual clutter detracts from your message and can be confusing and disagreeable to your guest, which will make them leave as fast as they came. Graphics should serve to complement to your content, not as competition with it for your visitors' attention.

   5. Avoid using Java applets on your index page and warn people if a link takes them to a page with Java on it. Java runs off of the viewing computer's memory resources, if it doesn't have enough memory or there are too many programs open using system resources, Java can easily freeze the browser or crash the computer. Folks won't be likely to come back if that happens.

   6. If you use music on your page, there are three courtesies to observe:

          * Many folks surf with their own listening preferences playing. If you don't provide a way to turn it off they will move on because your music and their program will both be playing at once. Ideally, don't autostart your sound file if it's more than a few seconds in length, give your guests the option of playing it.

          * Don't loop music forever. It gets old fast if it's not your taste.

          * Don't put the music reference in the code at the top of your page, especially if it's a large file. If it's downloading ahead of your other page components it can adversely affect your page's load time.

 
   7. Every page on the Internet is considered a published intellectual work and afforded copyright protection unless it's declared as public domain. Before using graphics, textual content, or anything else from another web site be sure you have permission to use it. It's a lot easier to be caught than you may think, and fines and penalties can be over six-figures!

   8. Never link directly to images or other files on another site with the intent to use them on your site. That means in your emails as well. In addition to the obvious copyright issues, calling files from someone else's web site to be used on your site is bandwidth theft, and it's very much illegal.

      The fines for copyright and bandwidth theft are steep, and it's very easy to be caught. Each server (where web pages are stored) keeps a log of all file accesses. If you link directly to an image on someone elses server, that server records each time the image is called to your page. It's the only evidence needed in a court of law. You can read more about copyrights and bandwidth theft here.

     
   9. For pages of mostly text it's considered the "best practice" to stick with a single background color, or at least a very simple background image without a lot of contrasts, or a left border image. Too complicated or detailed of a background image means that at some point the image design usually begins to interfere with the message. If the page isn't easy to read, many won't bother, no matter how appealing the content may be! Black text on a white background is considered the most professional look, and many studies have proven this color combination is the most readable.    


Most of the information gathered is from BoogieJack.com [tutorials on HTML and JAVASCRIPT writing for your websites] Ask Yahoo, MemberSpeed.com, HTMLGoodies.com [Vince Barnes] And some of my experiences with HTML. Thank you for reading, Cheers!

       

With its origin over 20,000 years ago in the early days of Atlantis, The Order of the Magi is probably one of the oldest spiritual organizations that has ever existed. No one knows the exact origin of the group, but evidence shows that they have maintained and preserved some of our most valuable and important spiritual sciences. These are the Magi of ancient Egypt and before, those who study the laws of nature and our cosmos, those who know the secrets of our planet as no others do and those who are dedicated to the preservation and sharing of these ancient truths. It has been said that the wise men and prophets written about in the Bible were among its members, even that Jesus himself was one of their ordained and trained leaders. And it is only now that the world is ready for the information that has been kept completely secret for thousands of years. It was in 1894 that the very first book was made public that revealed some of their astounding information.

The Ace of Spades has always been the symbol for this ancient group and that is why, to this day, the Ace of Spades always appears larger in decks of cards throughout the world. The Ace of Spades represents the secrets that lie behind what appears to be the truth. It represents the veil that separates the material and spiritual worlds and the power that we have to make a personal transformation to a higher level of consciousness.

The ancient system of Destiny Cards is believed to have originated and used by mystical orders that have been in existence since before Ancient Egypt.  It is a combination of numerology, astrology and tarot based on a common playing deck of 52 cards.  There is a precise scientific order to these cards and does not use a system of divination. All that is needed is your date of birth.


Olney Richmond, the Grand Master of The Order Of The Magi

It was Olney Richmond, a homeopathic pharmacist and world renowned checker player who was chosen to bring the Science of the Cards to the attention of the world. Contacted mysteriously during the civil war, he studied for over 25 years before making any of his knowledge public. He established a temple, first in Grand Rapids, Michigan and later in Chicago, devoted to the Religion of the Stars. All of his work was based upon the numerics of our calendar and though he performed supposed miracles for many reporters who came to interview him, all of his work could be proven by mathematical formula and testing. He actually corrected tables published tables on the movement of the planet Neptune by the use of playing cards and the mathematics behind them.

Olney Richmond once the Grand Master of the Order of the Magi, published the first known book about this divination system. The Mystic Test Book was published in 1893 when it was felt the proper time to reveal their secrets to the world. “Everything in this work is under strict mathematical laws,” explained Mr. Olney Richmond “and the movements of the planets are traced with accuracy, even to a second of arc.

Examples:

    * The deck of playing cards has 52 cards and there are 52 weeks in a year.
    * The 52 cards times the number of planets (7) is 364, the same as the number of days in a year (plus the joker).
    * If you were to add up the value of each card starting with the ace (1) and giving the court cards value of 11 (jacks), 12 (queens), and 13 (kings), you would also get 364. The joker has a value of 1¼ which gives us the actual 365¼ days in a year.

Edith Randall and Florence Campbell

After Olney Richmond passed away in 1920, his daughter, Arline Richmond, carried on his work. Among her students were two ladies, Florence Campbell and Edith Randall, who later published their own book called Sacred Symbols of the Ancients (SSA). This book is still available and is the first to illuminate the personality traits of the 52 Birth Cards. Though they never talked much about the Order, their work served to spread the knowledge of this wonderful system with many around the world.

 In Sacred Symbol of the Ancients (SSA) - Edith L. Randall and Florence Evylinn Campbell extended the theory presented by Olney Richmond.  The description of the card science regarding the origin, symbology, and quadration of the deck was taken directly from the original reference, and has remained intact since then.  There is quite a bit of content provided in this exceptional reference.  I have only touched on a small part of it.

    * The placement of the 7 planets under the 7 columns of the spread was introduced.  Where the planet for each row represented the ruler for that row, the planet under each column represented the ruler for that card in the row.
    * The direction of progress to use when reading a card was introduced as from right to left, and from top down.
    * The discovery of the Displacement card, being the card in the sun chart (Perfect spread in SSA) which owns the position you are reading in the rising chart (Mundane spread in SSA), was first described.
    * A planetary sequence was applied to the 7 cards following the birth card being read in the rising chart.  Reading from right to left, and top down, each card following the birth card was associated with a planet from the original sequence of Mercury, Venus, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus and Neptune.

Arnie Lein

One of Edith Randall's students was named Arnie Lein. After studying the cards for over 20 years and becoming a well known reader in Hollywood circles, Arnie published his own book, What's Your Card?, which is currently out of print. He taught many students in the Los Angeles area as well as Edith Randall and Florence Campbell and there are many readers in that area that have been using this system for years.

Robert L.Camp

Robert Camp had the good fortune to meet Arnie Lein in 1988 just before his death. He was a professional astrologer and had already been studying the system when Arnie introduced him to the predictive aspects of the Science of the Cards. Robert immediately recognized the value of this system and soon committed himself to bringing it to the attention of the world. His first book, The Atlantean Oracle was his beginning. It was republished and rewrote under the title The Cards of Your Destiny and has become the most important tool for bringing this system to the attention of the world. His current books, the most updated and complete of all, are Destiny Cards and Love Cards.

Robert had earlier spent ten years of his life in a Yoga ashram (school) living a monastic life and studying spiritual principles. He never realized that this system had a basis in a spiritual fellowship until 1991 when he was led to the discovery of The Order of the Magi located in Paradise, CA. After traveling up to see the people in the Order a couple of times and learning all about them and their history, he was initiated as a Grand Master by Frank Koenig, an original member who was himself initiated in 1939 by the same group that Olney Richmond started in Chicago. Robert's intiation, which took place on May 26, 1991, charged him with the responsibility for carrying on some of the Magi's work and it is to these goals that he has dedicated himself ever since.

Now that you have a bit of insight upon the history of the cards I read, and the people that have learned the secrets of "The Little Book Of Destiny". I have learned, and I'm always going to be learning. Now you have a little more knowledge about the cards. A lot of this information I found online as well with reading some of the books mentioned. I also have Olney Richmods' books link saved (so i can read them online anytime i want too), and the books Robert L Camp wrote (Cards of your Destiny, and Love Cards). Most of the history was online though. readly available for anyone to read. It's really interesting and insightful.

oXRavenXo